Negative people can easily ruin your life for good. Being around negative people can bring all your hopes down, even dampen your mood, and drive you to depression. While many people tend to downplay the effects of keeping very toxic friends in their lives, there is no doubt that doing so can hinder them from living their life to the fullest. Here are the reasons you need to get rid of these people in your life, no matter how harsh the idea may sound.
You are the People You Hang Around
There is no other way around this principle. If you keep toxic friends you will eventually be like them over time. This is not a matter of “if” but “when”. Negativity is absolutely transferable and sooner or later, the friends you despise for being so negative, intrusive, overly critical, dramatic, and argumentative, will be your new normal and now you will become the “toxic friend” to others. Break free while you still can. Being negative all the time rewires your brain so that you adopt an entirely new thought processing – that negativity is good and that this is good and normal.
Avoid the Temptation to Hang with Low-Quality People
Having negative friends can draw you into the negative circle they often want to be in every moment in their life. They will ask for your advice and sympathy with the drama of their lives, with their victim mentality, and their “me against the world” life narrative. Because you are their friend, you are expected to comfort and make things better for them. However, more often than not, it is too late for you to realize that this circle of negativity runs forever. The moment you are being sucked to one’s consistent, endless black hole, have the courage to resist. Act fast, cut the ties, and limit your time with them. You are doing yourself a huge favor when you do.
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Choosing the right partner can be tricky sometimes. People tend to rely more on the emotional aspect of a relationship and less on the more practical things that affect romantic relationships. Ideally, the longer you keep a relationship the more rewarding it becomes. This is why choosing the right person from the very beginning is important.
- Live a balanced life – relationships are not all about romance and magic. The best way to find the right person is to keep everything in perspective. Do not be centered on “the search” but live your life well. Excel in your career, have fun, do the things that you love the most. This will often lead you to the right person at the right time.
- Have enough time for yourself – even if the person you are dating is turning out to be Mr. Right, do not let this stop you from spending a healthy amount of time with friends and family. This will allow you to keep a well-rounded life, which also makes you more ideal to Mr. Right, especially if that person turns out to be your future life partner.
- Be true to yourself and others – do not rely solely on first impressions instead learn to know more about a person with fruitful, healthy conversations. It often surprises people that their impressions of the first meeting were actually way off. Lastly be honest with the person you are getting to know better in dates. Admit your flaws, be who you are and do not fall into the trap of pretensions. When you do this, chances are the other person will reciprocate. Now you will have a better chance of starting a relationship right, one that is built on truth and acceptance.
When you have all these things, you will have a much bigger chance of finding the right relationship partner.